Hi Jane
Sex is always a hot topic
on the large Yahoo Surface Hippy Discussion Group. If a person takes time, you can search hundreds of emails about the subject. Problem is the search function on Yahoo is slow and difficult to use.
That said, people with new hips really do want to begin to be normal again and begin having sex again. You are starting to feel good and want to regain your life back.
There have been many posts about positions, etc - but in reality it comes down to being cautious about your new hip. Many feel the solution for men is - let the woman do the work and be on top or use another solution.
I have read about many men getting active quickly with some help from their partners. I can guess there are a lot of things that are fun without even having intercourse if you are imaginative!
For women, one lady just let her newly operated hip side leg dangle off the bed. It goes on and on with solutions to best position without straining or hurting the new hip. I guess we could write the Kuma Sutra for Hip Resurfacing if we had time. Just make sure you don't bring your new hip side leg up to your chest and turn it inward. Probably you aren't able to do that yet anyways!
Use some common sense and have fun! Many have gone before you and experimented and were just cautious while having fun.
Here are a couple excerpts from THR and sex:
Sexual function after a total hip replacement
Will I be able to resume sexual relations now that my hip has been replace?
Most patients are able to resume safe and enjoyable intercourse after hip replacement. The hip pain and stiffness that was noted before surgery will disappear, and you will find your hip to be pain-free and have better motion. However, it may take several weeks before you are comfortable with you new hip.
When can I resume sexual intercourse?
Generally it is safe to resume intercourse in about 4 to 6 weeks after surgery. This will allow time for the incision and muscles around your hip to heal. This topic can be addressed at your 6-week follow-up appointment with your surgeon. Please ask if sexual activity can be resumed and which position(s) are the safest.
What positions are safe for me during intercourse?
Total hip replacement precautions need to be observed during all activities of daily living, including sexual intercourse. Your surgeon, nurse and your physical therapist will instruct you on the precautions that you should follow for everyday activities.
Most patients, male and female, prefer to resume intercourse in a passive manner in the "bottom" position. This position requires less energy. As your hip heals you may take a more active role.