Hi Kal
Yes, many people have to go to several doctors to get what they want. Until you have talked with the most experienced hip resurfacing surgeons in the world, don't be discouraged. I went to 4 orthos that cost me $200 each and was told I needed an old fashioned small ball plastic/metal thr. Then I found the Yahoo Discussion Group and started to learn where the experienced hip resurfacing surgeons were.
Sometimes even the best will turn people down. Sometimes De Smet says No, Bose will say yes. Bose will say no, De Smet will say no and Gross will say yes. Or a few of the other really experienced surgeons will say yes.
Many of us had to travel long distances to get what we wanted. We keep looking until there was no other doctor to talk to.
Many of the inexperienced US surgeons will often turn people down because they are not ready to do resurfacing in complex or difficult situations. They just suggest a THR to be on the safe side. That doesn't mean that one of the experienced surgeons won't give you a great hip resurfacing.
Look at my list
http://www.surfacehippy.info/listofdoctors.php and see what exprienced surgeon is close to you.
I went to Belgium to Dr. De Smet because I was an older female at 61 with a loss of bone density. I did not have health insurance so could not afford surgery in the US. Even if I had insurance, I still would have choosen De Smet with over 3000 hip resurfacings.
Many people choose Dr. Gross in SC because he has a lot of experience. There are a handful of US surgeons with 500 - 1000 hip resurfacing surgeries. The overseas doctors have much more since they have been doing it since 1997.
Many others like Vicky have choosen Dr. Bose of India.
Send out your emails and talk the the experienced surgeons, you will get a feel for where you think you want to go.
Good luck and stay in touch.
Pat