Hi nevada, welcome. I'd back Danny up on that, you want to talk to one of these doctors and get your XRays and any other information that you have to them.
They are some of the best in the world and can let you know where you stand, whether a resurface can be done, and if not, what other options are possible. You're doing the right thing, taking control of the situation and finding out where you stand.
The rest is all good, whether you qualify for HR or a THR, the pain and suffering will go. This is you taking strong steps for yourself. HR has been great to me, others have had great success from THRs. I'm a bilateral HR, was done almost two years ago, and I was pretty bad as well, no cartilage on one, almost none on the other and bone spurs everywhere.
All of us have been there, you're among those who get you. Do your research, get the best doctor possible, get yourself fixed and rejoin your life.