Hi
This is basically a site about hip resurfacing, but since some people that have joined here can't have a resurfacing, I added a THR section. 99.9% of the website is about resurfacing. I have a sister site about THRs a
http://www.hipsforyou.com It is not as large or active as this Surface Hippy Website.
The only piece of advice I would give you is that less experinced hip resurfacing surgeons won't or can't do difficult resurfaicngs. Since you sound like you have a difficult problem, I definitely would at least get several of the top resurfacing surgeons to look at your x-rays. Most will give you an email consultation for free if you send them an email and attach your x-rays digitally. Only the really experienced surgeons that have done thousands can do difficult hips. Less experienced surgeons will just give you a THR.
You can look at my list and see the top resurfacing surgeons
http://www.surfacehippy.info/listofdoctors.php The closest to you would be Dr. Su of NY, Dr. Mont of MD and then Dr. Gross of SC. All will give you a free consultation. Then you will really know if you are a candidate or not. Again, the less expeirenced resurfacing surgeons just won't do difficult hips. When surgeons have done over 1000 resurfacings, they are getting to be experienced. I would not want a THR at your young age if I could have a resurfacing. They only way to know is talk to the top surgeons. You are young with a large family, I would make sure you are making the right decision before just accepting what one surgeon has told you. He might be right, but a second and third opinion with such major surgery is generally pretty accepted.
You can also write to the top surgeons overseas that have done many thousands like Dr. Bose and Dr. De Smet. I went to De Smet since he does older women and very difficult cases. He has done way over 3000 resurfacings. He is probably one of the very best in the world and has been doing them since 1997. I think you can undrstand that surgeons that just started in 2006 when the FDA approved the BHR just can't be as experienced as the overseas surgeons that have been doing them since 1997.
I am not a doctor and can't give medical advice. I can say that most people want a second and third opinion when they are facing major surgery to replace one their hips. If it isn't done properly, you could limp or have pain the rest of your life. It is not an issue most people are willing to gamble on.
If your inner voice still has questions - get them answered before your surgery. Don't wait until after and wish you had. Many of us have actually cancelled THR surgeries to get a resurfacing including myself.
Good Luck.
Pat