Aaaahhh, Mike (try to read that like I'm an old, wise, knowing, father-like figure)......
You sound exactly like I did, and just about like 90 percent of folks here. I'm 44, and my hip started going bad slowly, and right up to surgery I had good periods mixed in with bad. I had a Wednesday surgery with Dr. Gross, and I ran 4 miles on the Monday morning before that. BUT.........I had just as many periods when I couldn't walk/stand/sit/sleep without discomfort. Those periods were becoming more frequent. I had given up playing tennis. And, I never knew when an activity would result in pain. The fact is, it will never get better, so the decision is when you want to get on with your life. If you go through this website, you will read that a thousand times.
Here is a discussion around your same question that I posed last year:
http://surfacehippy.info/hiptalk/index.php?topic=3081.msg26144#msg26144And, again:
http://surfacehippy.info/hiptalk/index.php?topic=2656.msg20521#msg20521Your feelings are totally normal. But, as a 10-week-out hippy, I can tell you that Dr. Gross, his entire staff, the hospital, and the whole experience are outstanding. You won't believe how easy it is, and how quickly you recover. While I operate within my restrictions, I rarely even think about having an implant......AT 10 WEEKS !!! And while I haven't forgotten what the hip pain felt like, it is a distant memory.
Also, if you haven't read it yet, read this "sticky" from Pat about the metal issue:
http://surfacehippy.info/hiptalk/index.php?topic=3529.0Follow the links to learn the facts about it. Most news accounts of the issue only look at selected results, then report on them out of context. Unless you have a known allergy to metal, it is unlikely that you'll have any issue at the hands of an experienced surgeon. And, Dr. Gross is one of the very best.
Good luck, man. It is....honestly....so much easier than you can imagine, and so much of a relief. Why wait to get back to life?
Andy