Dear Michelle, i'm sorry i was in a rush last night so didn't answer this properly, i've read through your threads this morning and cannot believe that i'd missed a fellow dysplasia sufferer on this site. i was considering leaving the site as i've got resurfacing envy!
first thing i have to say is you are a complete trojan - reading what you have been going through made me feel very emotional and relive some of my past but you are suffering much more than i did. firstly i would say that whether or not you have OA you are in considerable and life changing pain. something needs to be done urgently. this was my view when i was in your position and i begged and begged to have the operation and I was lucky, my surgeon performed it and it was miraculous. secondly,I didn't have a PAO, i refused one as i thought it was a huge surgery which delays replacement, i might be wrong as I'm not an experienced person and all the girls on the dysplasia site seem to have had them and they are reporting massive improvements. the total expert on dysplasia and PAO's seems to be Mr Johann Witt at UCH, and this is the name i keep being told. Surely through choose and book you could see him for a second opinion?
www . uclh.org/OurServices/Consultants/Pages/MrJohanWitt . aspx
it is all about the surgeon as you will know from this site. I have had a similar experience with surgeon's recently, Mr McMinn looked at my Xrays and refused to see me. I think that it is a dysplasia thing, my Xrays and MRI didn't show up at all how much pain i was in and i had to get my husband to speak for me to tell the surgeon that i needed surgery. no-one cannot function so long in so much pain. 31 is not too young for any kind of surgery whether it is resurfacing or THR, 31 is too young to be wasting your life in pain, you only get one, Michelle.
I'm a bit further down the road than you but back in pain again, my xrays look fine, but i'm in pain all the time. it is not as bad as last time but i'm not waiting that long as i was practically suicidal with pain last time. i can't drive as it is my braking leg which we kind of need! i couldn't hold down a job and need a lot of help at home. i am going to ask for surgery again. My quality of life is too important to let go of. It is unlikely that i'm going to get a resurfacing this time, Mr McMinn was my only hope and if he won't see me despite reporting debilitating pain then I'm going to be forced into a THR if i get anything.
i really feel for you,Michelle, believe me i've been there when you can't do anything and you just feel lost, but keep going when you've come out the other side of what ever surgery you get offered, then you will get it all back and life will be really good. do join the FB dysplasia group, there are so many girls on there who could really help you.
good luck, Sal