I'm just 7 weeks past my BHR and I went through all the same concerns that you've posed. I'm 62 but I'm really active, and tennis plays a big part in what I do when I'm not at work. Any solution would need to be a best-fit for an active lifestyle.
After two years of "it's your back, do these exercises", a physical therapist got the x-rays and suggested that I talk to a surgeon. The surgeon recommended a THR, so I did a bunch of research and decided that a resurface was a much better solution. Both of the "traditional" hip surgeons only did THR, and neither had a good opinion about the resurfacing. There was one other surgeon locally who did the BHR, so he's the guy I spent some time with.
In the Boulder area, there are at least 5 different surgeons who do the Birmingham system. If nothing else, I'd talk to one or more of those people and see what type of success they've had. My surgeon does around 300 hips per year, 50 or so are resurfacing. He had all the numbers for revisions (1 since 2006), recovery times, return to sports, all that data. Those surgeons with experience with both procedures are probably better qualified to recommend one or the other. (The BHR web site has a physician locator.)
For me, only, I felt that a resurfacing was the better choice, because I could return to full activity in a reasonable time, the recovery was quicker, and it gives me a fall-back option should a THR be needed in the future. Hopefully, at that point, I'll be ready for the compost pile! (what happens to a chrome cap and socket when you are cremated? Can you use the remains for jewelry?)
The surgery is a little more complicated, so having a surgeon with a lot of them under his/her belt is a plus.
An aside - my mother-in-law had a THR 2 years ago, and exactly at 1 year, suffered 2 dislocations one week apart, and is now recovering from revision surgery. That made my decision pretty simple.
Best,
Jim
(FWIW - 7 weeks, post, riding road bike 20 miles 3 X/week, beginning to hit tennis balls, no restrictions, no pain...)