I can relate, but I think we are doing fine. I'm at about four months, having only had one hip done.
It is taking me forever to do squats, but I'm making (very) slow progress. But still, it's progress. I've been working with a trainer for six weeks, and the PT there said I made good progress. But my right leg is still SO much weaker than my left.
Standing on one leg is a joke, but it's better. I still have a limp. I CANNOT do even ONE clamshell.
For about two weeks, BOTH hips were crazy tight and painful, and then it was gone.
I was having a pinching on the front of the hip, top of the thigh that I thought might be psaos, but the PT watched me and said it was actually the quad, which I guess is better.
Progress has been so slow, but it's progress. I went from only being able to do squats at the very top of the range (because I would shift to one side) with the assistance of the TRX band, to being able to do a pretty deep (for me) squat with no help, and not shift to either side.
My standing on one leg exercises are better, but it's still not pretty. My romanian deadlifts with handheld weight are getting closer to looking like actual deadlifts.
What I mean to say is, lots of random tightness, pinching, weird aching muscles, but a lot of it seems transitory, though some of it is hanging in there. (Four months and not one clamshell, really?)
I think improvement looks different after this kind of major surgery. I try to focus on the little improvements. They aren't the kind I would see if strength training and not recovering from surgery, but it's still progress.
My old PT told me two things to try for psoas release. Basically you do a bridge, with a pillow folded between you knees. Do 10, then do 10 with the band around the outside of your legs. In other words ten bridges pressing in on the ball, and 10 bridges pressing out against the band. That seems to be something you can try to get the psoas to calm down a little bit.
Also, make sure it's not your quad!
Hope this helps,
Taj