Thank you for your post and topic. I agree with John C - your last sentence is something everyone who has this surgery should read. 30 years ago I tore a ligament in my knee while wrestling. The Ortho decided not to do surgery, put instead put on a removable cast. He said if I followed his directions (which were to only remove the cast for a sponge bath) I would be able to ski when I recovered. I did not ski at the time, but several years later I started down hill skiing and rarely had any problems with the knee. Lesson learned - follow doctors instructions. But how, when they are vague or don't cover all situations. The only instructions/restrictions I had was not to put more than 50% of my weight on my surgery leg and not bend it past 90 degrees.
How do you judge when you are putting more than 50% of your body weight on your surgery leg? For the first 10 days I used a walker and did not leave my house/property. I also stopped taking narcotics after ten days. I then started using crutches and went into town and did a little walking. My problem was reading others post about walking a half mile or more during this same time period, etc. I started thinking that maybe I should be doing more. However, my recovery was going well and nothing really hurt and I had no leakage from the wound, so I kept with what I was doing. I also started lifting weights using dumbbells, this at least made me feel good mentally.
I started driving at about 2 and a half weeks, and also started walking for about 20 minutes. I started working at 3 and a half weeks and using only one crutch inside. I am now walking every day for about 20 minutes. I want to do more, but don't want to push things and injury my leg somehow. My Dr. also will not release me for PT until I see him for my 6 week exam, although I am doing the exercises at home he said I can do.
My point is, we all heal diffeently, and we should remember that and listen to our bodies. As you said, this is healing, not a workout, so pushing through the pain is not always helpful, nor is comparing ourselves with others.